how do you deal with loss of a dear one?

Most people give writeups about how to deal with Loss of dear ones but I wonder how they wud deal wit it if its their loss.You knw advices are rilly easy to give on how to cry it out nd how not to cry but u never know how much d loss of some1 wud affect you until you actually go through the stage of loss....The loss of a dear one is non explanable even if you have been prepared for it.I mean if the person has had cancer or an equally terminal disease and you ve known it would end up in death..Nothing ever prepares you for the loss of someone even you ve sworn to hate d person for life.I never thought the loss of someone would affect me so bad and would teach me what it means to lose someone I.I didn't envisage that huge space and terrible feeling that came with it..Its too much of a story or an advice to give to people who has just lost someone.personally,I made it a point of order never to go teach people how to deal with their loss..This is dedicated to people who ve lost someone and it felt like they can't ever recover from the loss.The word for today is never let people teach you how to deal with losing someone you ve to cry,miss the person like crazy,relive the memories,and best of all,live like your loved one would ve wanted you to.buy that bag that you both loved,go places you've wanted to and don't eva forget what the values or principles the person upheld or believed in........Tosin Ajala we miss you and its very sad to know we would not be able to hold your 12 children,or witness your fabulous life with your hubby nd dat beautiful job u wanted buh we take solace from d fact dat God loves you more nd has better plans for the apple of his eyes we also pray God be with Alhaja and give her d fortitude to bear this loss..We would cry,light forests,miss you and above all,live our lifes so you would see us from d right hand of God and smile at us..We can't live ur life but we would make you proud living ours......AJALA TOSIN August 20th 1990-August 23rd 2011..